Dear Craig,

Yours is a very interesting question. There is
growing evidence that under intense stimulation
almost any healthy female can “squirt”. One
begins to wonder why human females can perform
such a seemingly useless feat. There is not yet
a scientific answer, but I conjecture that in our
evolutionary journey as humans, the washing of
sperm from a female’s vagina must have had some
sort of genetically beneficial result. One could
hypothesize about what those benefits might be,
but there is no clear evidence to support
anyone’s hypothesis. I would be interested in my
reader’s ideas about this though!

But back to your question.

The woman’s lover’s technique to induce squirting
is not nearly as important as the woman’s own
core attitudes toward sex. Any inhibitions or
reticence on her part will sabotage her attempts
to produce her clear, almost tasteless elixir.

If she is fearful of embarrassment from seeming
to urinate, it will be almost impossible to
induce a state conducive to squirting.

The sluttiest of women are the ones that squirt
most easily.

But here are some tips to help you on your
journey.

Have your woman pee just before you attempt to
“help her squirt”. That way, when she feels that
sensation that she “has to pee”, she can reassure
herself that it is not PEE, but her elixir that
is pressing for relief.

Have your girlfriend experiment with her own
fingers, or her favorite dildo or vibrator, to
find that certain magical place within her that
stimulates her glands. It may take her some time
to find that certain productive spot. For some
women, it is her G-spot that triggers her
glandular discharges. For other women, that
sacred spot is deep within her vagina, and could
even be deeper within her, perhaps past her
cervix, in that portion of her vagina that
extends beyond her cervical opening. For some
women, the stimulus is next to her cervix on its
upper surface. Some women must be stimulated
from behind, even anally, to hit their perfect
spot.

So the key is to experiment, experiment,
experiment. Find her special spot. Be
inventive. Your fingers or your cock may not
reach to where it is. Be ready to use other
tools and toys if necessary. I know of one
couple who discovered her “squirter spot” only
after the kinky husband brought in his largest
handled long-shafted screwdriver and plied his
wife’s cunt with the thick, knurled handled end.

But remember, the most important thing is that
your woman can have no hang-ups! With hang-ups,
she will not be able to relax enough to fully
experience her deepest sexual responses, her core
sexuality. If you CAN get her relaxed enough,
and then can find her magic spot, she will pass
into a wonderful world of incredibly intense
orgasms.

Learning to stimulate her to such liquid
intensity is one of the most rewarding
accomplishments a man can achieve.

I wish you luck. But remember, it is, in the
end, HER duty to relax, and to find her sexual
core, and to lose her inhibitions. You cannot do
that for her. She must do that for herself.

And then YOU must accept HER for the truly sexual
woman she has become. That newfound sexuality
may mean she wants to expand her sexual horizons.
She may want to experiment with other lovers,
other races, maybe with women. She may want to
experience more than one lover. Once inhibitions
are loosed, it is like suddenly being released
from slavery, from bondage. Her new freedom is
intoxicating, refreshing, exciting, and
addictive.

So be careful what you ask for. You might get
it.

Deni
Samarel Sex Guide Editor
Better Sex Advice

I really enjoy masturbating but my clit is small
and sometimes hard to stimulate. How can I make
it larger? I want to have it protruding through
my lips so I can be aroused all the time from it
just touching my undies. I know a few females who
tell me this is a great feeling.

Lezley

Dear Lezley,

I love your question! I am happy to report that
there are several ways to increase the
sensitivity and exposure of your sweet little
clittie. My clittie used to be quite small as
well. But as you can see from my picture (Click Here)
my clittie is no longer small. It now becomes
stimulated from being caressed by my clothing. I
love how it’s dimple is visible if I wear really
slinky clothing.

So what are your options?

The first question is, do you want it to be
longer, or just more visible/accessible? Mine
was made longer by surgery after an unfortunate
incident with a lover. A plastic surgeon
implanted a somewhat stiff implant that keeps it
continuously exposed. That is one way of doing
what you wish. I will tell you that the
procedure is extremely painful, and takes quite
some time to heal. But I love it! Now that it
is healed.

I know of no way to make it longer or thicker via
drugs or pumping. You can make it temporarily
larger by applying an intense vacuum to that area
of your body. In Europe, this fetish is fairly
popular. But is does not stay inflated for long
after the vacuum is removed. And there is no
evidence that any permanent enlargement results.

Taking the opposite tack is a possibility, and is
one viable option for you. You could remove part
of the little hood that covers your precious
clittie. This is also a surgical procedure that
should be done by a plastic surgeon. But the
removal of part, or all, of your clitoral hood
would leave the more sensitive clitoral bud
exposed and vulnerable. Once again, there is
extended healing time.

Another option that is available to you is
piercing of your clitoral hood, or even piercing
of your clitoris. Some piercing rings have a
small circular “ball” that is intended to
increase the stimulation of your clitoris when it
moves due to normal motion of your body. Many
women report that they adore their piercings, and
that it does make their clittie more sensitive.
Bear in mind however if the ring or stud is for
some reason under constant pressure, the ring or
stud may well migrate from its original position
due to that pressure, and could even, eventually,
fall out. A scare could be the result. So keep
an eye on your piercing if you chose this option.

One of my own my delightful discoveries is that
even if your clittie is hidden, too well covered
by your clitoral hood, you can wear a vibrating
egg within your vagina. The pressure and
vibration from within your vagina will stimulate
your G-spot. Your G-spot is the clitoral nerve
and fiber bundle that extends from the internal
underbelly of your clittie. This alternative
provides stimulation to your clitoral body
without leaving it continuously exposed to
external stimulation.

One of my favorite news items in the last year is
the story of the woman who went to the store with
a vibrating egg inside her. She became
overwhelmed by the stimulation and passed out
from her intense orgasm while at the store. Of
course they called the paramedics, who heard the
humming inside hr, and removed the offending
object, much to her incredible embarrassment
after she woke back up. The story had a happy
ending when the paramedics humorously presented
her vibing egg to her as she left the hospital.

There is evidence that men that have been
circumcised lose sensitivity of their glans (the
head of their penis) over time, eventually
leading to erectile dysfunction, or difficulty
reaching orgasm, in many cases in later life.
There is not yet sufficient data to correlate
this finding to females that have an exposed
clitoris, such as mine. But male and female
genital nerves and tissue are quite similar, so
the odds are high that there would be an eventual
correlation. Ask me in another twenty years . .
. . .

Thanks for the question!

Deni
Samarel Sex Guide Editor
Better Sex Advice