Dear Deni
That was a great story you did. An it just shows
it is true about a mans penis.
I am a white man with a 9 inch penis an a
swinger. I go to party houses on the week ends,
an I have notice that a black man can come in an
the ladies always go to them even when the white
guys are hung 8”, 9” an some 10”. A black man
with a 10 or 11 cock always gets the ladies!

Why is that?
smoothfrank

Dear Frank

I believe that there are a number of reasons that
at a swinger’s party what you describe would
occur.

The most obvious reason is that many women want
to experience what a really long penis feels like
inside them. They want to feel what it is like
to be truly filled, stuffed and totally stretched
to the max.

Second, many women are intrigued by the old
saying “Once you go black, you never go back.”
One can only wonder why that would be. And if
you are into experiencing the ultimate at such a
party, why not try the prodigiously endowed black
dude out? After all, sexual variety IS the
explicit purpose of the party! And if your mate
is there with you, you have the security of
knowing they will come to your aid if you should
need them.

Third, there is the intrigue and excitement of
the unknown. As human’s we are always curious
what something we have not yet experienced might
be like. It is the adventurous spirit within us.
So we see the opportunity to experience a well
endowed black man and we say to ourselves “Why
not? It’s OK in this scenario!”

I noticed that you mentioned that the black men
are longer than any of the white men there. I
also noticed that you did not mention the girth,
or the thickness of the various men’s endowment.

We Americans have another myth regarding black
men. And that is that they have much bigger
penises than white men. The research shows that
at full erection, that is not true. The average
white man at full erection is very nearly the
same length as the average black man at full
erection. But there IS a difference in length
and girth when they are NOT erect, the black
man’s penis tends NOT to shrink nearly as much as
the white man’s penis. Most white men can shrink
almost to nothing when they are not sexually
aroused. This makes the white guys seem shorter
and smaller while quiescent. In reality the
average size of both races is very similar when
they are erect and aroused. Still, that myth is
something that often makes we women want to
experience the black man’s supposedly larger
member. The women with the male with the biggest
penis tends to feel like the alpha female. It is
a frivolous means of determining dominance, but
then dominance and submission are totally
emotional, and are rarely based on fact.

Then there is the taboo aspect of a white person
being with a black person. We were often raised
to feel that the different races should not mix
their genes. Even though we now know that there
is very little difference between the races, we
still feel that bit of taboo, excitement at the
differences, the desire to experience that very
thing we were taught to sublimate as a child.
The culturally dangerous thrill of knowing that a
black man is about to deposit his black baby
making sperm directly into our white wombs is a
vicarious thrill that can make our orgasm huge
and long lasting. MMMMmmmmmm! Every one would
know for at least eighteen years that we are
sexually promiscuous, as evidenced by our having
a beautiful black child . . . . . and a white
husband!

One of the things about interracial sex that
tickles me no end is that often the brown races
feel impinged upon when a caucasian is going
with a black person. Somehow they feel that
THEY, people of THEIR color, are more
appropriately with black people or white people.
It is as if the white person is delving into the
brown skinned person’s private domain.

And, if you look back through the ages, the
different cultures all arrived at various diverse
ways of maintaining genetic diversity.

In some cultures, it was the normal custom to
share their women with visiting males. The
reason they did was that since there was little
normal day to day travel between settlements.
Tribes tended to raid other tribes to find wives.
This assured that there was genetic diversity in
each tribe. Outside genes were critical to
shield against having inbreeding genetic
deformities. Therefore tribes that practiced the
courtesy of sharing their women with strangers
had a much greater viability rate than tribes who
were fiercely territorial and possessive of their
women. Many tribes, such as the Aleuts, gave the
possession of their own body to the females. In
other words, the female always chose who they had
sex with.

Other tribes, such as the early Hebrew tribes
were paranoid about how their wealth was passed
on. The first born male was invariably the
default heir for the wealth of the father. This
presented problems with genetic diversity, so the
men were permitted more than one wife.

Some cultures expected women to have many
husbands. By having many husbands, the female
would have many laborers to keep her fed and
protected, as well as receiving sperm from more
than one male. Obviously this enhanced her
ability to survive.

Genetically, human females are capable of
enjoying sex well past their first orgasm,
whereas the human males are normally good for
only one orgasm, then they need to sleep and
recuperate. Therefore the females of many
cultures would move from male to male as they
used each male’s offerings up, harvesting the
sperm of many males. In this way, women would
bear offspring from more than one male, ensuring
a rich diversity in the genes of their
offspring’s, improving the odds that their own
genes would be passed down through the ages.

Because the “slut” genes in females tended to
enhance their long term genetic survival rates,
women tend, even to this day, to be promiscuous.
That is why women begin to get “wonderlust” after
about five years with the same male. That is why
women tend to lose their desire to have sex with
their spouses after that time span. That is why,
as she surveys her options for suitors, she will
often chose an obviously genetically different
male than she is used to.

I hope this helps you understand all the
sub-currents that exist in the sexually charged
atmosphere of a swingers club.

Great question! Thanks for asking!

Deni
Samarel Sex Guide Editor
Better Sex Advice