Dear Deni.

Ok I’m a kind of person that loves to be made
love to.. Not sex or fucked, but I want someone
to make LOVE to me. And right now my boyfriend
(soon to be husband) doesn’t make love to me. We
FUCK as he calls it.. It is a big turn-off for me
and maybe that is the reason I cant have an
orgasm while we are fucking...

I usually have to give myself an orgasm.

I’m getting to the point were I don’t even want
to have sex with him..

What can I do to get him to understand that I
want to make love not fuck??

Please help thanks.
Girlfriend.

Dear Girlfriend,

Well, I hate to tell you the bad news honey, but
your boyfriend is a taker, not a giver. As you
say, you are getting to the point where you don’t
even want to have sex with him any more. I don’t
blame you at all!

I therefore suggest that you take drastic
measures.

First, sit down and think about this. You are
intending to marry a man who you already know is
not concerned about your feelings. Dangerous
already.

Two, a married couple who has no desire to have
sex together will last maybe two years. So the
odds are stacked against you there.

Three, a taker never has a happy spouse. A taker
will take and take and take until your love
bucket is dry, completely empty, and then they
will try to take even more, and when you have
nothing left to give, they will blame you for
their inability to give, and dump you to find
someone else to take from. You will end up a
sad, frustrated, bitter shell of a person who
cannot figure out what in the world went wrong.
The answer is that it was wrong to start with.

So you have three strikes against you even before
you get married honey. Not good!

So here is my recommendation for you.

Tell your future husband (in spoken words or in
writing if you are afraid to confront him) that
there will be no more sex with him for six
months, and that you wish to experiment with
other men to see if they are better in bed than
he is. Tell him you will get back to him in six
months after experiencing other lovers, and let
him know if he is still who you wish to marry.

I am serious about this, Girlfriend! The odds
that your marriage will last are less than one in
a hundred! Sorry about the bad news.

But keep me posted, if nothing else I can hug you
after your divorce.

And here is a hug for you now
(((((((((Girlfriend))))))))))

Deni
Samarel Sex Guide Editor
Better Sex Advice

Dear Deni

How are you today? I love your stories....now if
i could find a lady such as your self that
dabbles in just a bit of adventure that you
prescribe or describe then life would be bomb.

I am interested in your latest on the P1.

Let me ask you this. Why do a lot of white women
like or enjoy black men but it always seem to be
more BBW [Big Beautiful Woman] than amazon white
women or even the lithe ones? Could you explain
the phenom?

Trey

Dear Trey,

Excellent observation! However I will say that
many, as you put it, “lithe ones” also enjoy
black men. One of the great things about black
males is that they are far less judgmental about
petty things like a woman’s weight than a white
male is. I do not pretend to know why that is,
but it is one of the things that I cherish about
black men.

I suppose that black men find our white skin a
turn on, regardless of our weight. And believe
me, if you are feeling badly about yourself for
things like your weight, it is so wonderfully
refreshing to find a male who sees you as sexy
and attractive just the way you are.

In the end, if you see a woman as a status
symbol, and if you are white, you tend to want a
trophy wife who is thin and well built, curves in
all the right places. Unfortunately, that often
means that even though a woman is gorgeous on the
outside, she is ugly on the inside.

A black male, on the other hand, feels well
matched and envied if other black males see him
with a white woman. The color of her skin is
trophy enough. And that acceptance of us for who
we are is greatly appreciated by white women who
by many a white man’s standards is not trophy
material.

Kind of reminds me of that song where the singer
recommends that every man have an ugly wife so
the other males won’t hit on her and take her
away.

Deni
Samarel Sex Guide Editor
Better Sex Advice

Dear Deni,
I love the idea of nursing from a woman with wet
breast. How do I ask a lactating female for her milk. I
know it is not the first thing to say, but I would love
to take the next step and hopefully she would understand and
allow me to drain her tits of their liquid gold.

Fred

Dear Fred,

Wonderful word picture!
Women who are lactating have a physical need to
have their breasts suckled. Recently it is
becoming somewhat fashionable to have wet
breasts, in other words, milk in one’s breasts.
Honestly, if I could do that, I would. I agree
that it is a bit of a taboo subject, but one must
understand that a woman searches for just such a
solution if she has no baby at home.

The sensations that a woman feels as her breasts
are suckled are wonderfully sensual. Some women
even report light orgasms as it occurs.

So how do you hook up and offer your services? I
would suggest that you advertise on the many
websites that women frequent. And of course if
you were around the Montana area, I have a
delightful subbie that is in search of exactly
that service, from either a man OR a woman!

So go for it Fred! Get the word out there and
help a woman enjoy her god given talent to
produce milk!

Keep us posted hon!