Dear Deni

I have been having some problems with my present
girlfriend while making love. My penis size is
about 8 inches, and I don't know if this could be
the cause. There are times when she says it hurts
really bad inside, to the point where we have to
stop or I can't go all in.

She says it's sometimes air that goes in but we
are not sure if this is something bad for her or
if it can be touching an internal organ. Can this
be possible?

This has never happened to me before and she said
neither to her, at least not that many times.
(she said her passed lovers have been smaller)
it normally happens when she is lying on her
back, which of course I love because I can have
complete penetration.
Hope you can give us some advice.

Thank you.
Pedro

Dear Pedro,

You seem like a very nice and concerned lover.
Good for you, Pedro!

I suspect that introduced air is not the cause of
the discomfort. Each person has different size
sex organs. I suspect that your penis is longer
than your girlfriend’s vagina. This would indeed
permit the head of your penis to strike her
internal organs, such as her bladder. Pain, and
possibly even bladder infections could result.

I recommend that you two have sex with your
girlfriend on top, not on the bottom, until you
have a clear sense of just how deep you can
safely enter her.

Your comment that you like being on top because
you can penetrate her further is a distinct clue
. . . . . Most likely what is causing her pain
is that the glans of your penis is striking her
bladder as you so deeply fill her. If you still
want to be on top, I suggest that your girlfriend
place her hand over her vaginal opening, between
the two of you, so that the last bit of your
penis is blocked from entering her. And do not
slam her, honey, because that would increase her
risk of internal damage.

The erotic stories that we read tend to make us
think that all women love huge long cocks. And
the fantasy of having a huge one inside us can be
fun. However most women who are consorting with
a hugely endowed male over an extended period of
time will tell you that it can become quite a
problem.

So:
- Recognize that she cannot take all of you safely.
- Go slow until you are certain you know how much
of your endowment to feed into her vagina.
- Study sexual positions until you are
knowledgeable with enough positions that you can
enjoy each other with out injury.
- Experiment with different positions until you
find a few that you BOTH enjoy, and that do not
injure her or hurt her.

Good luck, Pedro!

Deni
Samarel Sex Guide Editor
Better Sex Advice

Dear Deni

I am a 70 year young man still very much
interested in sex. My wife of 40 years has lost
her wanting to have anything to do with sex. We
are still very much in love so I am left to find
a release on my own.

We live in a small town in on the west coast and
I have a very small chance of finding a discreet
sex partner.

I have tried Phone Sex and it wasn't bad. My
favorite fetish is toys and Strap-on play. As
soon that I mention to a lady that I have called
they start treating me like I am a cock sucker,
sissy boy, Gay, faggot and the like.

I am not any of those things and have never
wanted to have same sex experience. Do I
automatically fall into that group by wanting to
have my ass fucked? I enjoy my butt plugs, and
large dildos that I use and have built some very
nice props to use on myself. Should I tell these
ladies that I am not gay and want to just have
some good ass fucking?

Jerry

Dear Jerry,

It is exciting and refreshing to read that a
person is as interested in sex as you are at your
age. It means that not only do you have a
healthy sense of sexuality, but also that you are
most likely going to live for quite a long time
yet.

But to answer your question, YES! You are paying
for the service, make them behave and enhance
your fantasy. That is why you called them, after
all.

Our anal opening is loaded with nerve endings.
Any touching there is wonderfully stimulating to
most people. I suppose that is because for
several hundred thousand years, that was the only
real birth control method that worked. Therefore
for those people who enjoyed anal sex, there
would be a much better chance that they would get
to pass their genes to succeeding generations.
In times of no food, being pregnant was often a
death sentence for both mother and fetus.

Overpopulation was one of the most devastating
things that could happen to a tribe or primitive
hunting or farming group. Therefore having sex
that could not result in children became a means
of lowering the death rates during times of
famine or drought.

So your delight in having your anal canal
explored simply means you would have a better
than average chance of surviving the bad times if
you were a “caveman”.

Would you like to share some of your tips for
toys or techniques with us?

Deni
Samarel Sex Guide Editor
Better Sex Advice

Dear Deni,

I find it difficult while making love to my
overweight and obese spouse, can you please tell
me, how to satisfy her, and enjoy pleasure, while
making love.

stud

Dear Stud,

It sounds like the visual appearance of your wife
is what is distracting to you. If that is
correct, turn off the lights and use Braille to
make love. Develop your fantasies so that
instead of seeing your wife’s body, you see mine
(just joking!) or some other woman’s that you
find sexier.

Employ sexy videos that show the type of women’s
bodies that turn you on. Read erotica to each
other. Play charades in which each of you get to
live your fantasies.

And most importantly, learn to give. Give your
wife orgasms, and watch your love life blossom
again! Be honest with her about how you feel
about her weight, in a very gentle and loving
way, so that she feels supported in her efforts
to lose the weight.

Just remember, saying ‘I love you, honey’ does
you as much good emotionally as it does her. It
is very true that ‘What goes around, comes
around!’

Deni
Samarel Sex Guide Editor
Better Sex Advice