Dear Deni,
whats da right way to give oral sex to a man?

YazPeCa

Dear YazPeCa

Visualize if you will a man’s penis inside a woman’s vagina. Now visualize the woman’s vagina tightly squeezing her lover’s penis as she is cumming. It is that degree of tightness that your mouth is trying to simulate as you suck on your man’s love rod. Make your mouth a replica of your in-shape, wet, pulsing, throbbing, needy vagina.

Many people try to start out sex by suckling on a man’s penis. If it is your intention for the man to ejaculate inside your mouth, then it is usually best to make sure he is highly aroused prior to gobbling him in. If he is not, he may take a long time to cum. Your jaw can take on an interminable locked-jaw sensation before he even gets close. Your mouth is then no good to him.

Most American males think of a BJ as the ultimate in sex. Usually that is not the case. However, because most women do not keep their vaginal muscles in shape, our pussies don’t “fill the bill” either. So when they feel our tongues and lips and mouth suckling them, they get the impression that the mouth is better at stimulating them than our slack, out-of-shape pussies.

If, on the other hand, we keep our pussies in excellent shape, that delightful organ can remain tight and pleasurable to our lover until we can no longer remember what sex is all about (like around the age of ninety or a hundred).

Men have lots of erogenous places around their cocks. Their testicles, their perineum, their asshole, the inside of their thighs, their belly buttons, their abdomen, their nipples, can all be caressed and stimulated by our fingers and our tongue as we pleasure their erotic hot dog. And these various parts, properly stimulated, will all help a man arrive at orgasm quicker if we caress and stimulate them gently, seductively.

Men will also cum harder when we add these stimulations to our repertoire of moves.

There is nothing quite as popular as a Blow Job queen at a party of horny men, believe me! A good BJ queen watches her man’s face as she suckles. Her eyes watching his face turns the man on while at the same time she can gauge his reaction to her technique. By watching his face, she can see when he needs a tighter suckle, or a looser one, or deeper or shallower head bobs, more tongue or less. Watch, and learn to read your man’s signs as you pleasure him.

Try all these variations the first few times until you learn what he likes. After a few times, you will be able to know just what yanks his crank.

Men like to be able to tell their buddies that their girlfriend deep throated them. That is a separate subject that I have already written about in a previous tip. Practice the above before you try to move on to this more difficult technique. In reality, when you deep throat the man’s member, the most sensitive part, the glans (or head) is no longer well stimulated. So it takes some special techniques to make him cum after he has breeched the back of your throat.

Let us know how it goes!

Deni
Samarel Sex Guide Editor
Better Sex Advice

Dear Deni,
I want to know how to have an orgasm that squirts, I have seen this on porno's and I want to do that? Is that kind of an orgasm more powerful or pleasing, or that doesn't really matter?

Thank you,
PYT in ATl

Dear PYT,

Yes, that sort of orgasm is incredibly intense. In fact, you must be fiercely turned on in order to produce your own elixir in copious quantities.

The key is to find that special trigger point inside you that stimulates your wetness to gather. The deeper your vagina, the further inside you that spot is likely to be. For many women it takes a generously endowed man to reach her trigger spot. A properly sized dildo can also be used to stimulate your special place.

Once the right spot is being stimulated, you will sense a growing feeling of “needing to pee” as your body rises toward orgasm. If you are not aware what the sensation is, you may indeed make the mistake of thinking that you DO have to pee. So if you relieve yourself just before having sex, you can eliminate that fear and concentrate only on your impending climax.

Once you have that intense sensation occurring, squeeze your abdomen hard as you cum and your elixir will flow forth in glorious conquest of the area outside your wet and flowing vaginal opening. Some women can spurt as high as four feet! A veritable geyser of pleasure.

Good luck in your quest for this intensely pleasurable activity. Your man will feel incredibly manly when you explain to him what just happened!

Your liquid elixir will not harm anything, but it does make the bed or carpet very wet, so if that is a concern, take precautions to contain your expelled liquid. It can also get slick if you use plastic, so be careful.

Deni
Samarel Sex Guide Editor
Better Sex Advice

Dear Deni,
Hi! I'm A. Bisexual Female, I'm Gr8 In Bed With The Men But Want To Be Gr8 With The Females! How Can I Make Have A Female Orgasm During Love Makin?

Princess

Dear Princess,

The difference between men and women is that a woman knows what she wants, but rarely gets it, the typical man only needs a wet hole to poke. That is a bit of an overstatement for people under the age of forty five, but not much.

Your female lover wants exactly the same thing you want, sweetheart. Gentle touches, soft kisses, slow progression to build the desire, and lots of reassurance as you explore each other. Feel free to ask her what turns her on. Soft tonguing and gentle penetrations with one or two fingers (when you reach that stage) are in order. Massage her G-spot which is about one and a half to two inches inside her sexy opening, just under her clittie. Applying firm pressure there with your finger tips as you lingually caress her clittie feels wonderful to any woman. Look for other places on her body that makes her smile in pleasure as you caress her body.

Be gentle, talk a lot as you explore each other, and kiss, kiss, kiss. Once you gather the courage to try it, you will be nicely surprised by how easy it is.

The main thing is for you to try it. Since her responses to your touches will be similar to yours, you will both quickly build a rapport that only women seemingly can attain with each other.

Try it honey, you will enjoy every minute of it . . . . . with the right woman. Only experience will teach you who the right woman is.

Deni
Samarel Sex Guide Editor
Better Sex Advice