Dear Deni
hi their,
How can i keep a erection doing a gangbag and become a haver (heavy?) cummer

Amp

Dear Amp

Maintaining an erection for a man requires genuine concentration. That is true no matter the circumstance.

For instance, even if you were having sex with your sexiest lover, real or imaginary, if she were to really start getting angry with you, you would naturally struggle to maintain an erection even if you were inside her. This is true of any man.

Women have it easy, we just have to lie there with our legs spread. The male has to maintain an erection and generally do most of the work.

So the answer to your question is to continuously concentrate on what turns YOU on. Learn to ignore the peripheral distractions. Meditation would be a good way to practice this. Stay focused on her pussy, or her breasts, or get up close and caress her body, or masturbate your penis as you talk to her about what you’re going to do to her to make her cum intensely.

A woman should be able to keep five cocks hard if she uses all of her talents and openings. Most women however just lie there and wait for the men to service them. Such a pity! The rest of the guys at the gangbang have to fend for themselves by doing what I described above.

Regarding increasing the quantity of your sperm when you cum, the best way I know of is to not cum for a week or so days before you attend a gangbang, or have sex with your friend. This will only work if your sperm does not leak into your urinary tract.

Many men have leaky vas deferens (the vesicles inside your body where sperm is stored) and therefore even if it has been a long times since they ejaculated, their sperm has not stored up. Instead it has been washed away by their urine each time they pee.

I know of no non-prescription drugs which will increase your sperm quantities. I can not speak as to whether there are prescriptions drugs which will increase the motility or quantity of sperm or sperm storage.

Why don’t you tell us a bit about your gangbangs, Amp? I am sure we would all like to read of your experiences! I know I would!

Deni
Samarel Sex Guide Editor
Better Sex Advice

Dear Deni

I know you have answered a lot of questions about anal sex but either i over looked it or didn't fined it. So my question is How can i make anal sex less painful. I enjoy it other than at the beginning. And i really enjoy reading your advice.

Thanks

M.v.K.

Dear Mv

Your anal sphincter requires certain types of stimulus to relax and open. It is designed to be pressed open from inside. Obviously during anal sex the invading organ will penetrate you from OUTside your body. Therefore you have to give your anal sphincter a reason to loosen and expand.

This can be done by using copious lubrication and starting with a very small item for your initial penetration. Allow your lover to insert their extremely well lubricated little finger into your orifice. Press the digit very slowly into your anus, withdrawing it every few seconds to re-lubricate it. Use this thin penetrator to lubricate inside your anus. After it has penetrated you fully, all the way to the knuckles, withdraw it and re-lubricate, then reinsert. Do this slowly and deliberately many times, until it penetrates you easily and your anus is extremely well lubricated all the way inside you.

Then start inserting a slightly larger (well lubricated) finger or object. When you can accept even a thumb, or thumb sized object, add two fingers, starting with the smallest digits (pinky and ring finger) and again work your way up so that your anus expands slowly. Work your way up in this manner until you can accept enough fingers, or an object, inside your anus that is approximately the diameter of the member you wish to penetrate you.

Then ever so slowly press the head of the real (extremely well lubricated) member to your now looser opening.

Now the critical part. YOU need to be the one that is in control, pressing back at the rate you feel is comfortable. That makes YOU in control of speed and depth of penetration, and YOU can stop at any time you wish.

You will feel several points of resistance as the member enters you. As soon as you feel a resistance, STOP. Maintain pressure, but don’t force it any further until you sense your sphincter muscle relax. It will happen, just be patient.

SO:
LUBRICATION, copious lubrication
SLOW gentle expansion of your orifice
Allow each point of resistance in your ass to relax as you work the member into you, and Make certain you are squeaky clean, inside and out before you ever start.

You can practice these steps in private with your own fingers and a dildo until you become comfortable with the process.

OK?

Deni
Samarel Sex Guide Editor
Better Sex Advice

Dear Deni,

Hi, it's Rae again! I need a little help with my boy. We're getting married and all and have had great sex twice, but still he is very shy in bed.
It bothers me, when he is shy he is afraid to try and do things, I don't know how to make him forget his shyness! Maybe by blowing his mind by doing a few things or something...? Please help!

Adiosu
Rae

Dear Rae,

You and your lover have a lot of wonderful, delicious exploring to do in your future. Cherish the journey honey. Cherish opening his sexual consciousness to the delights of a sexual woman. Cherish your opportunity to watch him grow and to learn as your body rewards his advances, rewards his trip into and through the “light fantastic”.

In order to help him along his journey, you will have to be affirming, encouraging, and never scold or seriously tease him. A shy man can easily have their feelings hurt, which will undermine their self esteem, their self confidence. Without that self confidence, he will not feel inclined to experiment with you.

Clearly explain to him the delightful opportunities you are offering him, show him how to do what you want him to do, then thank him profusely as he makes his efforts to please you. ALWAYS stay positive with him when you are making love.

Encourage him.

Don’t push, instead OFFER him opportunities in a way that he sees clearly that it will please you very much if he takes advantage of those proffered opportunities. After he has pleasured you both, praise him, and thank him, both in your body language and in your words. Tell him how great it was and how much you appreciate his actions. Show him respect and support. Answer his questions without being lofty or laughing at him, no matter how naive his question may appear to you.

When you cum, confirm to him that he made you cum, don’t make him wonder.

If you would prefer not to follow one of his suggestions, never say “No”, instead offer alternatives. Explain to him why you would prefer the alternatives.

Share erotic stories or videos that show the things you would like to do with him. Talk frankly about how they turn you on and why.

Guide his hands, his mouth, his cock to teach him how you like it, where you like it, what movements turn you on, what language (words and phrases) you get turned on by.

I envy you your exciting journey, Rae. May your marriage be blest with love and happiness.

Deni
Samarel Sex Guide Editor
Better Sex Advice