Dear Deni
You seem to know about sex, from what I have read so far. So can you help me out?

I am a twenty year old man that does not understand women. I know that is a very normal statement to make. But!

What I am wondering, is, do you have some tips for a young guy on how to score with women, without being humiliated by them, and without being a jerk?

Bill

Dear Bill,

I sympathize with you regarding how some women treat men out on the dating scene. It is both shameful and deceitful.

But here is the good part of that. You don’t not want to get tied down to a woman that would treat you that way anyway, right? So their callousness tends to be a quick way of eliminating the heartless cruel female losers, the ‘takers’ that are in the bars and clubs.

Unfortunately there is a lot of truth to the old joke that the drunker a person gets, the more beautiful the people they see around them.

I have to say that I am glad to see movies being made now that show the less than perfect people falling in love. For so long the movies showed only the “perfect” people having any luck at the games of love.

Now, I recognize that you did not ask about love, you ask how to get a woman to have sex with you. There is obviously a substantial difference.

Think about it this way, EVERY sexual contact you make can result in a baby being conceived. No matter what sort of protection you use, NONE are 100% fool proof. So if you’re going to exercise Willy, at least exercise him with a woman you would potentially be willing to have a LONG term relation with.

So, some “secrets” for getting into a woman’s panties . . . . .

First, be honest and sincere when you make first contact. There are NO magic one-liners that will get a woman to fuck you. Sorry to pop that bubble, but it is true. Instead of thinking about how few words you can use to seduce a female, figure out how to actually strike up a lengthy conversation! Oh my god! Actually talking about real things!

Men that talk, hold conversations, are up front and honest, and mean what they say . . . . . . THOSE kind of men get laid almost every night! YEP! It’s an official fact. Women like to talk! And men that will hold a real conversation with them are few and far between! And those talkative men are welcome and sexy to us!

Second, do NOT mention sex during the first hour of conversation. I know . . . . . A WHOLE DAMN HOUR? Giggle, YES, at least an hour! Maybe three. Maybe more! And don’t just talk to that one woman, talk to all her girlfriends too!

Third, after you have been talking to her for at least a half hour, start touching her, her hand, her arm, her back if you are walking by her (Such as to go to the loo). Not sexual touching, just gentle almost caressingly soft touches. Not all the time, just every five minutes or so.

Four, look her in the eye. Keep your eyes off her chest. Watch her mouth moving, tell her how sexy her mouth is when it talks. And mean it. Women love a man who actively listens to them. That means holding up your end of the conversation without dominating it.

Talk about HER! Talk about her likes, dislikes, favorite food, movies, people, work, etc. If she asks you a question about YOU, answer it simply and without bragging. Then turn the conversation back to her.

See! See how easy it is?

Well, keep me posted on your progress, my young friend! You will get the hang of it as soon as you put down your gun and start mining. Stop hunting for trophies and start mining for the true gems.

Frankly, you actually sound pretty darned intriguing!

Deni
Samarel Sex Guide Editor
Better Sex Advice

Dear Deni,

I find myself particularly horny during my "time of the month." Are
there any known problems, for men OR women, with having lots of sex
during that period?

Thanks again!
Trina

Dear Trina,

You seem to have gotten a lot of advice on the site with your question. And I believe that the guys are right, unless you have a blood born disease, there should be no problem with having sex during your menstruation.

In fact, there could well be some real benefits to having penetrative sex at that time!

For instance, studies show that sex during menstrual cramping can lower the severity of the cramping, and in some cases actually eliminate the cramps. A real benefit there!

Also, we women tend to be quite hormonal at that time of the month. The hormones that are a byproduct of menstruation are part of what makes us ‘sexually attentive’. So even though at other periods of the month we may be reticent about having sex, during that particular time period we should be more sexually receptive AND enjoy it more! How’s about them apples??!!

Thirdly, having an orgasm during the flow of our period will sometimes shorten the time span in which our flow is heaviest. This is because our womb may well contract and move about as we have sex. Our cervix may even dilate slightly, permitting a greater flow to pass though.

So as you can see, sex during that menstruatioin is beneficial in many ways. And orgasms during that time can be wonderfully intense!

So sex your heart away, babe! And tell us your erotic results stories!

Deni
Samarel Sex Guide Editor
Better Sex Advice