Dear Deni,
I always enjoy looking at pictures of some of the hunks giving the wives a good time on the Cuckold Interracial Group pages – and always think about how nice it would be for my wife to have a lovely time with one of them.

However, you rarely see any shots or videos which show really large black penises buried right up to the hilt. Are they too big for comfort and pleasure? What is the biggest size that a typical woman can accommodate without pain? I don’t want to risk her having a bad experience.

Mark

Dear Mark,

I can tell that you love your wife a great deal. It takes a true man to be willing to give his wife that special gift of pleasure, one which you know yourself that you cannot physically give to your beloved wife.

Men have a tendency to think that good sex for a woman involves a big penis. But if you were to turn that around, would you say that the bigger a woman’s breasts are, the better the sex? A periodic fantasy is clearly different than the everyday expectation. I think we can both agree that a fantasy is different than reality.

But YOUR question is intriguingly different.

You are right to be concerned about how a large penis would affect your wife’s desires, and her health later on. A man’s penis can definitely cause several unintended consequences for the woman after sex. For most women, our bladder lies just beyond the head of our vagina. Other organs are also in the way of a long shaft’s path.

It is one thing to have a long penis slid slowly into our body. It can be a totally opposite thing to have one slammed over and over into our sensitive internal organs.

Just as men have different size penises, women have different size vaginas. The Kama Sutra describes the sizes of our Yonis (vaginas) as being a Rabbit, or a Doe, or an Elephant. Obviously a woman with an Elephant’s vagina would have far fewer problems with a particularly long penis than a woman with a much smaller Rabbit sized vagina.

So the questions are: 1) How deep is your wife’s Yoni? 2) How long is the intended lover’s penis? 3) Do these two organs match in size?

It is intriguing to note that our bodies are very elastic. A woman’s sex organs are the same. With great patience, a woman’s vagina can be stretched to take almost any diameter of penis. My personal favorite is a penis that is seven and a half inches long and the thickness of my wrist. Obviously I am a Doe.

Length is a far more crucial consequence than is the diameter. It is the length that can cause us bladder infections and other trauma. That is why you rarely see a long penis fully buried. If you ever do, it is because the woman’s Yoni is deep enough to accept the length fully and without damage to her internal organs.

Having said all of that, a woman’s Yoni is designed to accept “overflow” in the length department. It is just that it cannot be slammed in and out over and over with out causing problems. A woman can take almost any length of penis slid slowly in. The withdrawal can be very fast. It is the inward thrust in that can cause problems.

My advice to you, should you ever be so fortunate as to be able to give you wife this exquisite gift, is to allow HER to control the depth and speed of penetration. Most men with experience, and with large cocks, understand the limitations of a woman’s Yoni. So perhaps you should find a middle aged or older black male with adequate equipment to pleasure your wife as you enjoy her joyful shrieks of fulfillment.

I wish you the best, my loving friend. And I hope your wife appreciates your willingness to share her in hopes of providing her with the ultimate sexual experience.

Deni
Samarel Sex Guide Editor
Better Sex Advice

Dear GG,

Your quandary IS quite similar to Suzy’s, with one minor exception. I so much appreciated Suzy getting back in touch with us about her results.

I am so glad to hear that you wish to share your expanding sexuality with your husband.

The good news is that the VAST majority of men would LOVE to be able to share their wives with another woman in their marital bed. The only thing they fear, of course, is losing their wives or girlfriends to another person, woman or man. Because no one can see the future clearly, any of our actions can result in our loved ones becoming emotionally wounded.

There fore I suggest that you do a few things. The sequence is important.

First, be honest with your husband. During your love making, explore your fantasies with him. Be honest, but not uncaring about his reactions. Be careful to clearly assure him that he is the love of your life, not some other woman that might be making you horny. It might even be helpful if in your fantasy play you include reassuring him that it is his cock that gets you up (even if it isn’t always true).

Second, once you two have agreed you would like to explore this fantasy together, set up the rules. Your rules might include things like: You will only make love with her if your husband is present, or: He gets to have sex with her only if YOU are present, or: he cannot come inside her, but he can kiss, caress, and enter her only if you guide him in.

These types of rules will reassure each other that it is your spouse that is your primary interest, not your new lover.

After your threesome sex, make certain to reassure your husband that you love him deeply, and thank him profusely for being willing to allow you this freedom when he is present.

Regarding the weirdness you referred to. It WILL feel weird honey. It is a change in what you have long believed to be permissible. The sense of weirdness, like fear, is to warn you to be careful. It is not necessarily a warning to never cross that line.

So be careful, be honest, but also be forthright. Almost every one of us is to some extent bi-sexual, regardless of what we see on TV these days. So relax, lead your husband one step at a time, love him first and foremost, and be very careful with the one you pick to bring home to him. Then spend several days showing him how special you feel because he was willing to take a risk in order to help you enjoy your own fantasy.

I predict you will improve your love life with your husband if he can see his way clear to taking this risk with you, and you continue to reassure him it is him, and only him, that you love first and foremost.

Let us know how it goes baby! We are all curious. Be a pioneer, but report back what you find over those mountains on your exciting journey of life.

Deni
Samarel Sex Guide Editor
Better Sex Advice