Dear Deni,

The wife and I have a few toys in our bedroom. She can not take the longest one of 7 inches without complaining. Yet, when our male friend comes over who is REALLY hung, she finds great joy in having all he has in her vaginal passage. He is around 12 full inches long when hard. Why is that?

Fred

Dear Fred,

Sounds like your wife enjoys sex with men, but not so much with toys? You don’t mention how long YOU are. So I am going to assume that you are not as long as her longest toy. It would be interesting to know if she has trouble taking yours. It would also be interesting to know if she has problems with other men who are approximately the same length as the toy.

Having said that, I can think of several reasons why she might have trouble with a shorter penetration, and not with a longer fulfillment. Women have different internal organs at different depths along our vagina.

For instance, many women’s bladders are right at seven inches deep. Our bladder normally lies snuggly alongside our vaginal canal. Deeper than that and our bodies allow the penetration to slide on by, but right at seven inches or so, if the blunt head of a phallus continually batters our bladder, the trauma can easily cause a painfully unforgettable bladder infection.

Another point of conflict can be the mouth of our cervix. Too much contusive banging on it can also cause discomfort through bruising of our tissues. It is interesting to point out, our cervix is not right at the bottom of our vagina, but is (if we are lying on our back) instead slightly above and shallower than the end of our vaginal sheathe.

The end of our sheathe can stretch with longer penetrations. When that happens, our organs may give us pleasurable feelings as the head of a penis stirs us there. A longer penis can actually stretch our wombs (uterus), which for many women is a erotically pleasurable sensation.

Women have a very hard time describing that sensation. The best description I have heard is "Deep". Another one is "OH MY GAAAAAAAAAWWWWDDDDDD!!!!!!!!!

Another issue that affects the pleasure or discomfort we feel is how hard the penetrating object is. A penis is wonderfully soft and smooth on its surface. A dildo is usually either too hard through and through, or too floppy and soft.

The glans of a man’s cock is also wonderfully cushioned in a way that protects our internal organs. Therefore a man’s penis is (SURPRISE!) perfectly designed to give us maximum satisfaction, regardless of its length. Knowing how to USE their prick is, however, often a problem with men.

So let me know if your wife enjoys a real penis that is seven inches long. And Fred, tell us how long you are!

Deni
Samarel Sex Guide Editor
Better Sex Advice

Dear Deni,

My lover and I have fantasized about having a threesome. In her words, "Being filled to the brim". She is 55 and has awakened sexually. We entertain her with me, and fantasies of being filled and fucked by another man - and all the variations.

I am straight.

Have ever been fucked by two men at once - was it pleasurable?

We both know for a woman it has to " feel right " We have discussed this at length. We are a couple - very much in love. We just want more - or at least try it. There is an available club not too far away and we know about safe sex etc.

We are thinking this will make us even closer as a couple.

Your opinion please.

Ed

Dear dear Eddie,

Yes, I HAVE taken more than one man at a time. I like three even better than two. IF . . . . . IF . . . . . the men know how to do it. But yes, being chock-a-block full of knowledgeable and perceptive penises is incredible.

Different men will give your friend different experiences. So don’t be afraid to experiment a bit even if the first time is a bit awkward. The mix of men is important.

I advise you to find men who are not squeamish about touching each other. Find men who enjoy their penises and testicles touching the other men’s, and that are dedicated to giving your friend pleasure, rather than just getting off inside her.

Eddie, when you say that you are straight, I read that to mean that you have no fantasies about being with a man. That, hopefully, does NOT mean that you would be unwilling to be supportive, and actively involved, as she is experiencing the "hers and yours" fantasies.

You being right there with her, for her, and participating joyfully in the activities, is critical to her being able to relax and enjoy the encounters. And your naturally wonderful sensitivity to her feelings will enhance her freedom, her ability to relax and just FEEL the incredible sensations of the men’s penises sliding along each other inside her, one in her vagina, and one in her bottom, or one in her mouth ready to feed her its gift of cream as the man in her lower regions fills her with his soaking prize.

You keep us informed now, Eddie!

Deni
Samarel Sex Guide Editor
Better Sex Advice

Dear Deni

I have a penis in size of 1" normally? And on erection 3-4 inches? Is it enough to have a glorious sex? And is there any chance to improve my penis size? This problem leads me to an inferiority complex. Help me.

And I’m 22.

Stalin

Dear Stalin,

Many men feel that their penis is too small. Some of these men who feel that way even have a much larger than average penis! I have seen men with a soft penis that is shorter than one inch, and who then grow to be over eight inches when erect. So the length when soft has little if anything to do with the erect size of your manhood.

Most of the myth that black men have bigger penises than other races comes from the fact that they do not shrink as much when not erect as other races do. So when soft, they appear to be bigger. But when erect, other races can expand by a factor of a thousand percent! A black man will normally expand only by a factor of two or maybe three hundred percent.

My lover is often less than an inch long when he is soft, particularly if he is cold. But his cock expands to be in the 87^th percentile when he gets hard. Frankly I LOVE to catch a man when his cock is small and soft. I love to suckle his littleness and feel him grow in my mouth!

Let me ask you a question. Does a woman’s breast size make her better or worse in bed?

If you read my true story that I published last week (my CumSlutFuckWhore Diary episode ) about my computer guy, you will recognize that his smaller than average penis was more than enough to satisfy me!

See, a woman is looking for a man who is vulnerable and sensitive, yet manly and self confident. That is a lot of contradiction in one sentence! Very few men have that sexy combination of traits.

But they are all learnable. So focus on them, and not on your cock size. If you do, women will love you no matter what your penis measures.

Just like you can love a woman regardless of breast size!

Deni
Samarel Sex Guide Editor
Better Sex Advice