Beat

Dear Beat,

Several months ago, I took time on the Sex Guide to answer someone else’s question about penis size. If you wish to read it (and I recommend you do), go to: http://www.samarelsexguide.com/deardeni_5.htm#penis_size

I just reread it, and I think it is still a good answer to your question about penis size.

Regarding enlarging your penis, it can’t be done in a permanent fashion. You CAN enlarge it for a short time by putting it in a suction pump. I do not recommend it. Many Europeans seem fascinated by the activity however. I have seen some pictures of men’s cocks that have been, for a short time, doubled in size by doing this.

The process encourages blood from a man’s body to enter and engorge the penis. This could conceivably cause blood clotting in the man’s penis. Dangerous. Very dangerous.

I hope, after you read my previous sex tip about penis size, you will relax about the size of your manhood. There is nothing you can do that will change its length or girth, so relax and learn to enjoy who and what you are. God made you that way. Accept his gift. He made you that way for a reason. Discover the reason.

And if your woman is giving you a hard time about the size of your cock, tell her your penis size is perfect, it is her CUNT that is too big!

I am serious. But be ready to duck, because I suspect you have never ever talked to her this way before.

Deni,
Samarel Sex Guide Editor
Better Sex Advice

Dear Deni,

How can u make a 'hard' last longer?...what can a guy do if he nuts 2 fast, or how can he hold an erection for a long time?

Paul

Dear Paul,

You are asking how to walk a tight rope on a knife edge!

A man is expected to perform miraculous things. Things like stay erect forever, or for at least for an hour, so his woman can indolently reach her orgasm. If the friction of her pussy is too much, the man has to figure out how to NOT cum until his woman does. No matter that the woman did not adequately prepare her own mind for the sexual encounter. No, it is the man that must meet her needs, not HER meeting his needs.

And the man is expected to do this feat while holding himself over her for that same hour, and do modified pushups the whole time, AND NOT LOSE HIS ERECTION!

Women don’t ask much of their man, do they?

So on the other hand, if a man is not given enough sex, often enough, he gets over anxious. And then he cums too soon. And that is also blamed on the man.

We women really are not fair to you males.

But to answer your question, how can you last longer. have sex more often. Or masturbate to completion before your date, more than once if you find it helpful.

OR . . . . . cum while you are making love, then pleasure her orally and digitally for a bit as you give jonny a brief rest, then when you get hard again, go at it for the second and third time. After the first time you will last longer.

Just stay awake after you cum baby! And keep making love to your woman. She will like it and it will take the pressure off of you.

Let me know how it works out for you!

Deni,
Samarel Sex Guide Editor
Better Sex Advice

Dear Deni,

I’ve been reading about girls having multiple orgasums.  I’ve never had a multiple orgasum. I’ve tried doing it myself but no matter what, it just doesn’t work. Is that normal? How can I make it happen?

Tonya

Dear Tonya,

MMMMmmmmmmmm!!!! Cumming more than once is indeed something to try to learn! For me, the second and third . . . . . . and tenth orgasm is better and better until pretty soon I pass out from the sheer, overpowering pleasurable sensations.

It does take awhile to learn the tricks of it though. If you wait too long to cum, your orgasm will be so all encompassing that you will have no stamina left to keep moving upward in your sensations.

So you have to teach yourself to cum more easily, and that usually means more quickly. In other words, you lower your threshold for orgasm.

Men love having sex with women that get aroused easily and cum quickly. And if you can make him cum quickly, and then suckle him until he is hard again, he can then sex you for the longest time! And as he keeps thrusting into you, you can show him where it feels best to you, and he can soon learn how to drive you over the edge again and again.

I have had lovers that could make me cum over twenty times. Obviously I treasure them!

I agree though that during masturbation, it is harder to have multiples. You have to teach yourself to not only cum quickly, but to keep focusing on sex as you come out the other side of the cumming, and continue to think about the wonderfully pleasurable sensations that your fantasies can take you to. Sometimes it helps to be watching a porno of your favorite fantasy, or to read a good erotic story, or to keep your vibrator on low rather than on high, and then tease your clittie with it, alternating to your nipples, and your anus, and your ear lobes and your toes and the souls of your feet.

Stimulate all of you. Move from one pleasurable sensation to the next, allowing yourself to climb and sore into the galaxy of fancy and erotic dreams. Talk to yourself; call yourself a slut, or a tramp, or a sex queen, or whatever turns you on. Verbally, out loud describe to your imaginary lover exactly what you want him to do to you. Imagine what you are doing to him to drive him nuts with lust for you.

Hearing your own voice being sexy and slutty is a real turn on for most women. Say dirty words, ask your imaginary lover to do naughty taboo things to you. Listen to the lust in your own voice. Beg for a good fucking. Beg him to cum inside you and make you pregnant with his baby. Make your pussy snap and grab his cock as you hump his imaginary prick. Feel your breasts jiggle and wiggle as you fuck his cock hard and deep.

The key, in the end, is to cum easily, quickly, and before you reach your actual peak, so that when you continue your climb to utter bliss, you know that you are still needing to cum more . . . . . . and more . . . . .. and more.

It takes practice, but it is worth it! Compliment yourself on how good a lover you are as you do these sexually erotic things. Convince yourself that being a "sexual slut" and a sexually advanced lover is what you want, and what you are GOING to become no matter what. I use the term slut to mean, "damn good in the sack", not someone who is indiscriminately fucking every tom dick and hairy.

Practice, practice, practice. Do your vaginal exercises so your pussy is tight and firm and strong. Learn how to feel inside your vagina so that you can feel when you are using the right vaginal muscles as you stimulate yourself. It will pay off as you find the right man to have sex with.

Send me an email the first time you achieve a multiple, OK?

Deni,
Samarel Sex Guide Editor
Better Sex Advice

Dear Deni,

Why is it that it’s so damn hard for single males to get in on the action? If a single female is looking for action she only wants a couple or another female. If a couple is looking for action they only want a single female or another couple. Why do we get single men get left out of the fun on everything?

Ben

Dear Ben,

Well . . . . . . A single man is single for a reason. Almost every woman, and every heterosexual couple includes one, have been previously lied to, and treated poorly by single men in their lives.

So the fact that the man is single raises a red flag in the woman’s mind. Single men, in her experience, have been takers, and women do not like being "Taken" by men who are only in it for themselves.

A single man is more likely to be a disease carrier (STDs) than a married man as well. The older a single man is, the more likely he is to have bad, selfish, unpleasant habits.

So if you want to EARN the chance to indulge, start giving. Start posting loving things, like pictures of romance, poetry, stories of love. Prove to the women of your group that you are not a taker and just out to fuck them, and then leave them, and probably brag to all your buddies about how you found some married slut you fucked and dropped.

If you come across as a taker, such as your question clearly depicts you to be, you will not be successful in being included in an adventurous couple’s fantasies.

It is up to you buddy, not the women. Be a giver, not a taker.

Deni,
Samarel Sex Guide Editor
Better Sex Advice