Dear Deni,

Can a girl take any size strap on dildo in her pussy?

Ileendrea

Dear Ileendrea,

Well, within reason, yes! But there are a few things to understand before I can give you an unqualified yes.

First, there are two different ways of measuring the size of a vagina.

The first one is the depth (or length) of a woman’s vagina, and the second is the volume that a vagina can accommodate.

Let me give you some examples.

The depth of my vagina is about eight inches. I have had a penis longer than that inside me, but it was not what I would classify as FUN! It was erotic, for sure, to be able to feel a man so far up inside me, but it hurt as well.

So without pain, I can take a little less than eight inches, max. After that my bladder tends to get in the way, and that can have repercussions for over a week, even with meds.

The other size issue to discuss is the girth of a penis, or other object, that can be accommodated inside a woman’s vagina. In that regard, I am much more flexible. If you have visited the page on Samarel’s site where he has put Hugh Doute’s stories, you can see how thick Hugh’s sexy cock is. The woman he is enjoying in that picture is me.

Hugh’s cock is about as big around as my fist when I ball it up. So when he enters me, my pussy has to stretch right on out there in order for him to penetrate my body.

Bear in end, the reason for your pussy being there is to give birth. God has made it pleasurable for other purposes as well, such as sex. But in child birth, the head of the baby must travel the full length of your vaginal canal. Therefore your vagina has to be able to stretch to at least the diameter of a baby’s head.

Some women are naturally larger than others. The Kama Sutra describes vaginas as being the size of (listed in small to large order) a rabbit, or a doe, or an elephant.

Men’s penises also come in various sizes. Obviously a man with a large thick penis will cause less stretching in a woman’s vagina with an "elephant" sized orifice.

A man with a short thin penis can even cause a woman with a "rabbit" sized vagina to feel stimulated.

But a man with a short thin penis may have trouble satisfying a woman with an "elephant" sized vagina unless he resorts to oral and digital stimulation for his lady love.

Now to your question. Yes, within reason, any woman can expand to accept any dildo that is 4 inches in diameter or less. It may take a lot of patience and a lot of lubrication on your lover’s part to slowly expand your opening and tunnel to accommodate such a size, but it can certainly be done. Many heterosexual and female couples enjoy pushing the size envelope with each other’s orifices. The same can be said for couples of all varieties pushing the limits of their anal intrusions with their partners.

However, the DEPTH, or length, of your vaginal canal is not as open ended. It can actually damage your internal organs if a woman is subjected to an unreasonably deep intrusion. Some women can accept up to fourteen inches. As I said above, I can only take less than eight inches and be comfortable. Some women can only take as little as five inches without pain.

So take care about how long an object, human or otherwise, that you insert into your lover’s vagina.

God made our bodies to be adaptable and flexible. As long as enough time is spent expanding the skin and interiors of our bodies, it is astounding what they will accommodate.

Deni,
Samarel Sex Guide Editor
Better Sex Advice

Dear Deni,

Please help me. I and my lover are having a great sex. But each time we have sex she will pee on me many a time when I lick her pussy. She will also pee into my mouth and when I ask her she says she doesn’t know what happens and can't explain. I am just a student in the world of love-making. Please help us with an explanation.

J&J

Dear J&J

I had to giggle when I read your delightful email. "Squirting" is a totally natural phenomenon during sex.

The liquid coming from your lover is not urine (pee). Instead it is a special liquid that is only discharged by a female during sex.

And not all women can produce this special liquid.

The liquid is very similar in taste and consistency and scent to the Cowper’s fluid that dribbles from a male’s penis when he becomes aroused. As you may know, males vary in the volume of this seminal fluid. In much the same way, some women produce a lot of this fluid, and some produce very little, or none at all.

The fact that your lover produces a great deal of it shows that she is easily aroused, or that your efforts arouse her to great heights.

I myself must be highly aroused to "squirt". And my lovers and I delight in it when I do.

There are some women who can actually squirt volumes of this liquid up to five feet! There are whole web sites devoted to videos and pictures of this event.

So enjoy her liquid gift to you! It is truly a compliment to your mutual abilities to arouse her.

Deni,
Samarel Sex Guide Editor
Better Sex Advice

Dear Deni,

I've been friends with this woman for 7 years now and over the past couple months we've been making out. There is sexual tension, and 3 weeks ago I went down on her in a heated moment. Too f.....n eager as you said in the quote below.....then we got interrupted!
I know, well, I feel, I can please her. I am a woman and have been with plenty....since, we've kissed a few times.
She thinks the chemistry between us is mainly because she gets horny.
How do I get another shot with her, and communicate with her... I so want to please her, and want her to know that I am ready, willing, and able.
"simply so eager that they loose it and do not manage to satisfy their lover."

thanx,
Carrie

Dear Carrie,

It sounds to me like your friend is not really into you baby. For your sake I hope that isn’t true, but your letter indicates that you at least have more interest in her than she does in you.

On the other hand, she may be just feeling guilty about having homosexual feelings. That would certainly be understandable. The world around us puts a lot of emphasis on convincing everyone to be heterosexual, and at the same time places a lot of stigma on being homosexual, or even bisexual, such as I am.

I suspect if you could get people to be totally honest with themselves, almost everyone would admit to having some level of feelings for people of the opposite sex during some period of their lives.

But your question was "How do I get another shot with her?"

Well, IF she is afraid of being badly judged for having sexual feelings for you, you will have to, over time, help her understand that bi-sexual feelings are the norm. I believe that they ARE the norm, but convincing her, if she was brought up to not be comfortable with that concept, may take time.

I have several friends that have had to go through a period of adjustment to accept their own inner sexual feelings about another person of the same sex. It usually takes a year or more before they can relax enough to even try touching, let alone enjoy same sex loving.

Perhaps you and your friend could begin to include videos of women making love with each other, and you could read her stories of the same thing. Keep making out with her. If she will let you, continue to be willing to fulfill her with your mouth and hands. Keep on loving her. She initially may respond more to loving words and acts than to sexual advances.

Depending on her background, you may have resounding success.

I hope so.

Deni,
Samarel Sex Guide Editor
Better Sex Advice

Please answer back.

Sincerely
Teaser

Dear Teaser,

Yes, you are correct, I did suggest that a person, rather than shave, pluck their pubic hairs. But the method of doing so is very important.

My lovers and I actually pluck each others pubic hairs as a part of our love making. Here is how we do it. Each and every part of the process is important, so please try it our way and see if it works better for you.

First: Run a tub full of nice hot water. Soak luxuriously in the tub as you and your lover(s) talk sensuously and maybe even drink a bit of wine. Candles and low lighting can also be of help to set the mood. The reason for soaking in hot water is that your skin pores and hair follicles expand as your skin heats up. If your hair follicles are thus expanded, they hold your little hairs less tightly.

Second: Have your lover(s) gently and erotically stimulate your pubic area as you soak in the hot water. It helps you to relax, and as you become more and more stimulated, the endorphins in your blood begin to decrease your perception of pain.

Third: Have your lover(s) pull your pubic hairs one by one in quick jerks with a pair of good tweezers or a pair of needle nose pliers. Your lover(s) can get right down close to your punani and see exactly what they are doing. Carefully pull the hairs one by one. Continued sexual stimulation, either from a vibrator, or your own hand, or by your lovers (or both) will keep your level of endorphins high, and continue to decrease your perception of pain.

I suspect that even though your pubic hair is a bit more wiry than most, you will still enjoy the process if you include it as a part of your love making.

I can also tell you that it is a whole lot less painful to do it this way than to have a "Wax Job" where your hairs are all ripppppppppped out of your punani in a single incredibly painful jerk by a smirking underpaid bitch.

My lovers and I enjoy this little sexual te-ta-te about every two weeks.

One of the advantages of this process or hair removal over shaving your pubic region is that you never have "scratchies", i.e. sharp hair ends sticking out of your skin. Those can be very abrasive and stickery to your lover.

Men, doing your pubic hygiene this way will allow you to give your lover a much more comfortable and erotic love session than shaving ever will.

And as your pubic hairs grow backing, they will be soft and downy rather than sharp and scratchy.

Mmmmmmm! I am thinking that I should go have my lovers do me right now!

Let me know how it goes!

Deni,
Samarel Sex Guide Editor
Better Sex Advice